Some days ago while going over an issue that got me a bit unsettled, a friend said to me ‘why do you always say and think the worst things’. I did not argue about this statement because it is at least 80% true.
I am among the people who refuse to accept that worrying is 100% toxic. I have the tendency of always anticipate possible results and when I air my views, anyone who does not understand automatically thinks I’m hurting myself by worrying too much.
Maybe I do worry a lot , but I feel like it is an important process that helps you manage your expectations. The truth about it is, in my case I never get worried in a way that is harmful or unhealthy.
Have you ever thought worrying can aid meaningful living?
Trust me, i know how this sounds. How can anything good ever come out of worrying. I mean, with the way it tends to make people fall in and out of depression/anxiety, one would want to drop every issue that triggers worry.
While we keep reiterating the need to have only positive thoughts, we should not also ignore the fact that we might have to worry at some point in our life.
If you ever get to that stage where you need to worry, just Think of ‘worrying’ as a means to consider possible results or find solution to a problem at hand.
While I intend to share my thoughts about how ‘worrying’ works for me, please read this post on how you can manage your expectations. It is necessary to always guard your thought process.
- Worrying triggers you to be proactive.
Imagine a world where we never had to worry about anything and we could leave things undone, It will be completely chaotic and unorganised. I feel like when you worry even just for a little bit, you get the right amout of motivation to get things done.
For example, If you have an examination to write, worrying about a resit will trigger you to study hard.
Worrying allows you to sub-consciously play out your activities before you consciously put them into action.
- Worrying helps you manage your expectations.
You know how I mentioned managing expectations earlier, worrying allows you anticipate results and think about the possible outcome of a situation.
The good thing about worrying is, you have the time to make necessary adjustments, retrace your steps, cross your T’s and dot you I’s.
And if ever you get a negative outcome, you will know how to handle it because you probably saw it coming.
- Worrying helps you make better decisions.
This might be difficult if you have no idea on how to guard your thought process. Personally, I have learnt to make better choices just by worrying. The times when you feel you should throw caution to the wind, worrying about possible repercussions helps you make the right decision. This ranges from making financial decisions, career choices etc
On a lighter note, a friend once said to me that the reason I never lose my phone is because I never go clubbing or attend crowded concerts. That’s true to an extent because I actually worry about my safety when I think about such places.
Worrying about accountability definitely keeps you in check of your actions. If you have ever had bad experiences from a certain situation, chances are you will not focus down that road a second time once you think about your previous encounter.
- Worrying is a sign that you are interested.
If you spend just as much as a tiny second thinking about something or someone, that means there is some kind connection. It might be love related, out of concern, curiosity or just plain fascination but if you feel the need to react to something or check up on someone, I feel like that’s a good reason to worry and reach out or do something.
I guess if someone is worried about you and your goals, it means they care about you and vice versa.
Like every other thing in life, worrying in excess is detrimental in so many ways especially when you cannot come up with a solution.
For a meaningful life, you will worry at some point, it is very normal but to make the most out of it, ensure you are finding a solution and not just dwelling on the issue.
Share your thoughts about worrying.
Do you think worrying is completely harmful?
Can one ever achieve any good thing from worrying?
Do you have an experience you will like to share?
I’ll love to read from you