I was running errands the other day with a friend when we saw the police had stopped two guys for driving a jeep that had dark tinted windows.
Both guys seemed distressed but what really got me thinking was when my friend said the two guys might be involved in shady deals.
This conclusion was made because they both wore earrings and had dreadlocks. Now, I tried to put up an argument to differ but it really didn’t get anywhere as the subject of discussion drifted into other topics.
While reflecting much later at night, I thought about how easy it is to judge people on the spot just by observing and this post has the different ways people get judged.
- Dressing and accessories.
Appearance is definitely the first thing you notice in a person.
A ‘big hair, don’t care’ lady will probably be called loud, wearing excess make up could be mistaken for insecurity but could also mean stylish.
Guys with earrings might be called wayward, sagging your trousers can be mistaken for being unruly but that could also mean trying to be fashionable.
I remember when my course mates and I were made to dress like the locals because we had to go into villages to interview elderly men and women for a project. The idea was to dress like them so they can be comfortable around us and not feel intimidated.
Imagine if we had dressed in really sophisticated outfits and heels, there is no way the villagers would have given us attention without being sceptical.
They say dress the way you want to be addressed and I agree with that statement.
- The car you drive or lack of it.
You know it’s true. A flashy car probably means the owner is very rich, has a really good job or sometimes misunderstood for being fraudulent.
I have even heard people joke about how some valet treat owners of fancy cars better than the owners of regular cars.
It should not be that way but society has a way of determining what kind of person you are by the car you drive or the lack of it.
This is really bias but it does happen.
- Your gadget
This is another way people get judged on the spot. The kind of phone, laptop, camera you own….
Meanwhile, do people still have fights about #TeamAndroid and Team Iphone?
….And ringtone too
Apparently, you get judged by the ringtone you use…
I was with the customer service representative in a banking hall when someone’s phone rang. Honestly it was a very ‘funny’ ringtone and I didn’t think that way alone.
Cust. Rep. 1: Who is using that kind of ringtone?
Cust. Rep. 2: (Looks towards the direction of the song playing and says)..it’s the old man at that corner, what do you expect?
- Your countenance
We talked about words are not enough during the AtoZ Challenge in April. It explained that our aura makes an impression before we even speak. Smiling a lot can be interpreted for ‘happy go lucky’ or pleasant.
If you frown alot, you could be taken for being too uptight.
The key is not to do anything out of proportion.
- The way you talk.
Well, you might be a really nice person but just one inappropriate encounter can send the wrong signal to someone who does not know your good side.
A lot of misconceptions have been made because of the things we say.
- Your friends
I’ll say its just to an extent because four friends cannot have the same characteristics…..
But if the saying ‘birds of the same feather flock together’ is anything to go by, then yea…you might be judged wrongly if you have a badly behaved friend.
In my opinion, these are just the little things we have, do or say that help people form an impression.
I’m not a big fan of judging people on the spot…I like to make excuses for people’s…and well if I have to form an impression, I try to be fair…it’s sometimes difficult but I try.
This is actually a light hearted post so….
Share your thoughts Lovelies…
Have you been judged for any of these reasons before?
Have you judged anyone for these reasons?
What other reasons help you make a first impression about someone?
I’ll love to read from you
Love, Peace and Cupcakes