Xenial Relationships

​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Phaytea’s Pulse is participating in the #AtoZChallenge for 2017. The Theme is ‘Awakening of Self’ and ‘Xenial Relationships’ is our entry for letter X. The theme focuses on character traits that will gear us towards Meaningful Living and will run for 26 days in April except sundays. Please stop by the blog everyday for subsequent posts as we read the 26 letters of the alphabet together. Enjoy!!☺☺

Mi casa es su casa?

Did you laugh at my attempt at Spanish?

If you have no idea what it means, it’s Spanish for ‘My house is your house’.

And yea…we are talking Xenial Relationships for entry X.

‘Xenial’ on its own relates to the hospitality between a host and guest.

I’ll first like to point out that hospitality should not be directed to only people we know.

There are cases where we treat strangers with disdain but it is advisable to be fair to everyone because you never know where or when you will need their help.

Having a Xenial Relationship with people is basically being warm, receptive and friendly. 

In two words, it is just ‘being hospitable’.

There must be some gesture towards people that make them relax in your company.

In Nigeria, especially the Eastern part, the host of a ceremonial occasion makes kola nut available to signify peace and show hospitality to the guests.

Kola nut is very symbolic amongst Eastern tribes and presenting it to guests is a gesture that shows they are welcome into your home.

This does not in anyway mean ‘kolanut’ must be presented to guests. Depending on the occasion, one can decide to substitute ‘kola nut’ for water, juice, food or whatever is available. 

I am yet to see any millennial serve kola nut to guests.😉😉

Basically, it is just the gesture that counts.Offering refreshment to your guest is a popular way of showing hospitality.

A xenial relationship is important for  meaningful living especially as we really should treat others the way we want to be treated.

We do not necessarily need to have guests in our home to be hospitable. We can make people comfortable outside our homes too.

Here are 7 safe ways we can build a xenial relationship with friends and strangers:

  1. Offer to listen to someone unburden their problems. This gesture can help those being depressed.
  2. When you invite people over, have something to offer them.
  3. Take out time to visit an orphanage bearing gifts and help the less privileged people.
  4. Grab an extra bite for a friend or colleague.
  5. Invite friends for a hangout.
  6. Give willingly.
  7. Offer to help whenever you can

Let’s hear from you Lovelies…

How do you show hospitality?

In what ways do you exercise a xenial relationship with strangers?

Do share your thoughts.

    Love, Peace and Cupcakes 


    8 thoughts on “Xenial Relationships

    1. This is a much needed read. I think the world is becoming more impersonal by the day people seem to have forgotten the basics of being warm to guests.


    2. Nice read. Our parents always had something for anyone who stepped in our home, be it water or tea. I will visit a home for the needy or orphaned to practice xeniality. I pretty much do most of the rest.


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