Not all wounds are visible.

You can never really tell where it hurts….

    Over the weekend, I read about the case of a man who told his driver to stop abruptly on a bridge, after which he got down from the vehicle and plunged into the lagoon immediately . He was reportedly taking a call when this happened. He was a doctor.

    I screamed!!!!

    This is just one out of the numerous cases that happens around the world. We hear about some and others are blown away with the wind. This is an intense piece for me as I cannot begin to imagine what transpires within those nano seconds before ……. (dark space).

    Compassion

    August Alsina’s song ‘Nobody Knows’ comes to mind. Nobody really knows the pain behind that smile…..

    We only see the surface and assume we are all fine. The flashy cars, picture perfect lifestyle, fancy job titles, pictures of vacations and lunch at choice restaurants, SOCIAL MEDIA doesn’t make it easy. We never see the struggles and the pain. 

    Nobody knows what anyone goes through and that makes it easy to have a loose tongue. Our tongue cuts deeper than a knife and it is the easiest way to push anyone off the cliff. We are quick to judge, quick to call out, quick to snap at eachother, quick to hate, quick to make rules, quick to criticise, slow to listen and definitely blind to body language. 

    I imagine someone asking rhetorically,

    •  but if you have an issue , why not talk about it?
    • but why didn’t he/she say anything?
    • why did he/she not reach out to anyone?

    Do we really need to know eachother’s problem before being mindful?

    Do we have to wait for a sad occurrence that will make us say ‘If I had known’?

    Do we have to know someone has a headache before we stop shouting?

    Problem shared

    Is a problem shared still a problem half solved? Or do we now take advantage of a shared problem?

    It might be the most difficult thing but there is no justifiable reason to judge anyone if we do not walk in their shoes. Anthony Hamilton’s song ‘Walk in my shoes’ is deep. Imagine being at your lowest and still having to go about your daily activities, handle your relationship, face insensitive people, take in pressure from all areas and also hearing those mind voices that keeps giving you reasons why you are an apology to humanity. 

    That is a lot of burden if you ask me and one derogatory statement to someone who is already depressed is a sure catalyst for self destruction. But yet, who are we to question anyone’s choice if we did not know where it hurts?

    (I do not know so much about depression, I have not been there before hence I cannot talk about it extensively but I know depression is real and there are real people who go through it).

    We need to understand that Not all wounds are visible!!!

    We do not have to wait for a physical proof to realise someone is in pain. As much as we have regard for our well being and happiness, we need to extend that happiness to everyone around us. 

    In the pursuit of happiness, we come across several challenges that deter us, we cross hurdles and sometimes come out successful. What about those that get stuck? 

    Do we leave them to drown in regret? Or

    Do we lend a helping hand?

    If there is anything we all need, I know it is compassion. Compassion towards ourselves and everyone around us. You never know what a simple act of kindness can turn around.

    •  Some people have no idea how to speak about their problems, be kind enough to notice body language.
    • Some people only know how to speak out by transfering aggression, be tolerable (A good example is Alicia in Una Maid en Manhattan).
    • Stretch ‘small talk’ sometimes; have deep conversations, you never know what you will find out.
    • Send out positive vibes.
    • Smile at someone.
    • Compliment eachother.
    • Help as much as you can. (Some people will take this for granted).
    • Be quick to listen and slow to speak.
    • Reach out to that colleague you have not seen in a while.
    • Give hugs…Sometimes a handshake is not enough.
    • Be a shoulder to cry on.
    • Teach someone to pray.
    • Encourage team bonding.
    • The little things count….open doors, pay for meals, offer a ride etc

          The need to be compassionate can never be over-emphasized. We need to remind ourselves constantly as it is human to fall out of line once in a while.

          As we go about our daily activities, always remember, ‘Not all wounds are visible’.

          Sending hugs to everyone.

          Love, Peace and Cupcakes

          Phaytea😘😘😘

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          55 Comments Add yours

          1. Great topic to blog on, this topic needs so much more attention from the general public and acceptance. No one should ever be afraid to ask for help!

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            1. Thanks for reading Zen. I agree with you

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          2. Sad reality we always tend to focus on other’s negatives

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            1. True….we will keep striving to be better. Thanks for reading

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          3. Lindsey says:

            We never really take time out to see, gear feel another’s situation, we should be more mindful of those around us.

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            1. We should…Thanks for reading Lindsey

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          4. Jerry says:

            It’s a dilemma. Talk about our pains with all the risk of rejection or keep on going like a madman hoping it will go away. I think I will add a post about this myself someday

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            1. Hi jerry….Thanks for reading…you should write about it…we can’t talk about this enough

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            2. Thank you for reading Chuck

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          5. Oriana says:

            Great post ! πŸ™‚ About the rhetorical questions, I don’t know why but I think it’s because society does a lot of victim blaming in general (the “If you didn’t act like this, that wouldn’t have happened to you” type of blaming). People tend to forget everyone is human.

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            1. Thanks for your contribution Oriana..victim blaming is the word. We seem to always know how it should be done when we aren’t wearing the same shoes. Sigh

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          6. Dusica says:

            Grat article!

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          7. Sheetal Bhardwaj says:

            Awesome. πŸ™‚

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            1. Thank you Sheetal

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          8. ellhamm says:

            tanks for being so open and real.great post

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            1. Hi Elliot…Thanks for reading

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          9. if we can just be more loving,compassionate and tolerant with one another,this world would be such a better place.

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            1. I totally agree..Thank you for reading Evelyn

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          10. Veera says:

            Great post. These things are not easy to talk about, but still so very important. Thank you for sharing this!
            https://byveera.blogspot.fi/

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            1. Hi veera, Thanks for your contribution 😊😊

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          11. Emma Connor says:

            This is a topic that needs so much more attention! Thanks for sharing!

            http://www.emma-jayne.co.uk

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            1. I agree with you Emma…Thanks for reading 😊😊

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          12. jemmyma says:

            Reblogged this on Jemmyma's and commented:
            I am one of those people who see depression as a far-far destination. Like how dos something this minor break you so bad.
            But I forget sometimes and have to remind myself, “Slippers get size”
            If anyone says a matter is hurting them, instead of disproving this, perhaps we can try to find ways to offer relief? maybe?
            Faith found a way to explain why as plainly as possible. I thought I’d appreciate the effort and spread the much needed awareness.
            Bises.

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            1. Thank you Jemmyma…we can’t talk about this enough

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          13. I was shocked when I heard about that man but i realized that one never knew what he went through anyway it’s too late. I guess he is in a better place now.

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            1. Hi jummy…. we never know if we aren’t wearing the same shoes…. Thanks for reading and contributing

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          14. Absolutely true! You just never know what a person’s going through or has gone through. Why wait to be mindful about it? I really liked the point about stretching out small talk too! I’ve known for myself personally, there have been times where I’d spark a conversation in hopes it would go deeper! This is something to keep in mind!

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            1. Thanks for your contribution Laneic.

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          15. I so agree with you. We must just learn to be positive nad loving and compassionate!

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            1. It won’t always be easy but we should keep trying. Thank you for reading Inking

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          16. tinkaragolob says:

            Wow, amazing post, girl! πŸ™‚
            This reminds me of me so much. A few years ago, when I was at lowest point of my life, I was exactly like that. I used to smile a lot, but I was dying inside me. I wasn’t truly happy and what hurt me the most, were other people’s comments. I was mocked a lot, because of my bad skin and my weight and besides feeling really bad, I had to deal with those comments. Fortunately, I grew up, started working on myself and I’m a totally different person today. But what i want to tell here is this – you never know what somebody is going through. And unless you know that person really well, don’t make comments about him or her. Those comments hurt. Words hurt. And you can’t take them back. πŸ™‚

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            1. You couldn’t have said it any better Tinkara..hugssssss

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              1. tinkaragolob says:

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          17. This is so true not all wounds are visible, I loved this post such an insight. Many Thanks, Cat
            http://www.thelifeofcat.blogspot.co.uk
            http://www.facebook.com/thelifeofcat

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            1. Thanks Catherine. I’m glad you loved reading it

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          18. Rabz E says:

            sad reality but great post.

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            1. Thank you Rabz…..yea….sad reality….we should talk about this more

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          19. Very nice post. Truly you never know what someone is going through, but you can be sure everyone goes through ‘stuff.’ I like all your suggestions.

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            1. Thank you for the contribution….and thanks for reading too

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          20. noellekelly says:

            Such a powerful post

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            1. Thanks for reading Noelle😊😊

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          21. You always have such an important texts here, respect!
            These subjects are hard to write about and I am happy someone is doing it!
            https://byveera.blogspot.fi/?m=1

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            1. Awww….Thank you for the kind words Veera…..I’ll keep trying

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          22. Jenni Petrey says:

            This is a beautifully written post and it is something that everyone should be aware of. I love all your suggestions.

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            1. Thank you Jenni…..I’m glad you like…let’s all spread compassion together..😊😊

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          23. Traci York says:

            Excellent reminder, and thank you for the lovely suggestions.

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            1. Thank you for reading Traci😊😊😊

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          24. Laura says:

            You never know what people are going through. Kindness and smile never hearth anybody.

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            1. I agree with you Laura..Thanks for reading 😊😊😊

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          25. Neha kumari says:

            Great post. This topic needs to get discussed as well. Sometimes you can’t express your feelings and that’s completely ok. All you can do is sending positive vibes to them to let them feel blessed.

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            1. I agree with you Neha. We need to keep talking about it.Thank you for reading and contributing☺☺

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          26. Jerry says:

            Too often do people say stuff (often with best intentions) which can be so painful…

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            1. Yea and that’s why we need to be mindful. Thanks for reading Jerry

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